Our words become bricks?

In conflict, consider your words as bricks.  What are you building with your bricks?  Are you building a wall that divides and separates, or are you building a path of pavers towards resolution and oneness? James 3:5 says, “The tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.”

When we allow frustration and anger to sabotage our communication, our "bricks" begin to build a wall. This leads to isolation from our spouses. 

When we speak in a way that encourages, we are using our "bricks" to build a path leading us over obstacles thus leading to deeper understanding, conflict resolution, and therefore oneness in our marriage!